Monday, June 1, 2009

Super Mom? Not Me.

First off a disclaimer: this is not a pity post. I'm not looking for, oh you are a great mom blah blah blah, not fishing for compliments, lol.

Does anyone else every feel like they are a bad mom? I know that as long as your kids are healthy, happy, and safe that you are doing your job right? Well a lot of the time I don't feel like I am. I swear my kd eats more candy than vegis, has more temper tantrums than smiles, etc. I know that she's only 3 (in a month anyway) and that they whine a lot and think that candy is actually a food group, but I can't help but feel like I'm not doing my job. I often times find myself giving in and giving her chicken nuggets or macaroni and cheese for the 4th day in a row for lunch just so that I can avoid a fight. Add a fruit or vegi with these meals as a side? Forget about it. I feel like television has raised my child lately because I have no energy to do anything. I know she's not getting out and getting as much activity as she should because, well I'm not. I look at all these other mothers around me and am so envious of them. They seem to be have grasped this mothering thing, add their own little spin, and are left with these happy healthy, and safe kids. Right now I feel like the only thing I've got down most of the time is the safe thing. These super moms that I look up to have their kids watch only the educational shows, and a very minimal amount at that, they can actually get their kids to eat healthy snacks and meals. They get out and play with their kids at the park (while I seem to be out of breath just walking up to the swingset). On top of all this, they seem to have energy for their own hobbies, crafts, sewing (another super mom attribute I have no idea how to do, make my daughter some clothes, ya right), reading, etc. On top of everything their houses are always spotless. I know what some of you are thinking, oh but Heather, you're almost 6 months pregnant its normal not to have energy. But to be honest I'm not much better when I'm not pregnant.

This September I will be adding a new addition, baby boy Hooton. I'm even more afraid now than ever. You'd think it would have been easy with just one kid. I've had 3 years to get used to this parenting thing, to become one of these so called Super Mom's, but here it is June, only 3 1/2 more months to go until he's here and I am still trying to figure out how to handle one, let alone two.

Anyway just a little note hoping I'm not the only one that feels this way. I know no one is the perfect mother and even these super mom's don't have it all together as it seems, but they seem to have something I must be lacking.

Oh well, I guess I'm learning and growing along with Taylar. So I will sit back, continue to have my tantrums as I watch Taylar have hers, try and justify why dinosaur chicken nuggets are okay for lunch for the 4th time this week and look at the mess in my front room hoping that the cleaning fairy will soon come....


Rebecca said...

Hey, we've all been there, Mine happens weekly!!! I love you hon, read sister becks confrence talk in the oct. 2007 ensign, 'mothers who know'. It always help me keep my own life in perspective and not envy others...I do that a lot too. I'll keep praying for you and good luck on your goals, that is a great example!!

Aubrey said...

Becca's right, we've all been there...daily for me! I could tell you stories already for today and it's only 11:00 am! You are a great mother Heather. Kids are tough. Do the best you can, and DO NOT COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS!!!! Worst mistake. I still do it all the time, so I am not one to talk, but it's like anything else, we never know the whole story. Someone may have great "perfect" kids, but maybe their marriage is suffering. We all have our trials big and small and they all come at different times in our lives. Just stay close to the Lord, he is the one solid in the world, I know that to be true. You're wonderful! You're amazing! You have talents and skills I wish I had. And there is nothing wrong with screaming your head off into a pillow and then running a few angry laps around the house. Nothing at all!

Heather said...

thanks ladies. I am actually feeling a little better today. Michelle actually sent me this awesome menu that she has for her kids broken down into meals and even snacks. It gave me some great ideas for things to get Taylar to eat. I went to the store today and got us a bunch of fruits and vegis and she ate them all!!! She loves Cherry tomatoes and cucumbers, go figure, lol.

As far as everything else, I know that no one has it as together as they seem and I need to not compare. I'm trying hard to do that and Becca thanks for the talk reference I will have to check that one out.

Tamara said...

This is your mother, telling you that every mother feels that way at one point or another and so dont be envious of anyone. You ARE a good mother and Taylar is a very well adjusted little girl. You are doing a great job at parenting and I want you to know that when Taylar grows up she will be glad you were her parent!